My husband’s confusion is increasing - it started as sundowning, but can be present most of the day. What’s the best way to talk to him when this is happening, I’m tired and getting desperate. His main confusions are not knowing he is at home/worrying about getting home and how; together with not recognising me, and wanting to phone me and let me know where he is. I know the theory about not ‘correcting’ him etc, but if he could be helped to realise the truth, he would be less agitated, so I do try that, tho of course he quickly forgets or doesn’t hear me (he also sometimes sees me as some sort of housekeeper). I also understand about being with his ‘reality’, but how does that work? Am I supposed to pretend to be someone else? Do I get him into the car and drive around (not easy)? Suppose these ruses fail? I have tried ‘playing along’ (probably not very convincingly), but he has caught me out in lies, and then starts to get angry, which scares me (because of its unpredictability.
I expect there is info on the forum already, but I only have 10 minutes to do this. I would really appreciate any advice/experience/ideas. When he is like this, we feel like strangers to each other,
Thanks so much, I’ve used TP before, and know I will get good support.
